I feel like this is how I sound when discussing sex, feminism, or even general human anatomy.
so this is terrifying.
i don’t usually put political stuff on my blog, but this is important and offensive.
If this is what my proper anatomical parts are to a republican, then someone needs to go back to high school health/anatomy class.
The pictures above are from Project Unbreakable. Project Unbreakable was created in October of 2011 by an amazing woman named Grace Brown. In her own words, Grace “works with survivors of sexual assault, photographing them holding a poster with a quote from their attacker. Grace has photographed over a hundred people, and received over eight hundred submissions.” She has a really wonderful, short video about why she does the work that she does that I encourage you all to watch.
I was so incredibly moved by this project; the first time I stumbled upon it I instantly started crying. I selected a handful of really powerful photos that deeply resonated with me, and that I hope will resonate with others, too.
After some thought, I’ve decided that I want to become a part of this movement and help to shed light on the issue of sexual violence. Particularly, highlighting the fact that most rapes are committed by someone who is at least an acquaintance of the survivor, and I feel that these photos and perpetrator quotes communicate that message very effectively. So, with that said, here is my Project Unbreakable submission:
I’m not in a place yet where I feel comfortable showing my face, and I have to keep reminding myself that there is no shame in that. When I’m ready, I’m ready. And this still feels like a big step for me. I really appreciate Grace and Project Unbreakable for inspiring me to take this risk.
After admitting to it a year after it happened he said “Maybe it didn’t happen if you don’t remember it.”
And then “I don’t understand how you couldn’t feel it” by a friend.
Hey guys, I’m sharing this with you because these things do happen, and awareness of sexual violence should happen in this world. Consent in sexual partners is the one thing I advocate for most when talking about safe sex. I know it may shock some, and maybe make some angry by interrupting our usual pool of porn and sex jokes, but ending this epidemic of sexual violence is something I really get behind.
Stay safe and be aware
Sorry if this is too gross, I just thought it was an interesting quote in the context.
I’ve always found the porn industry to be for the most part vile and guilty of producing false ideas of what sex/pleasure is, but I can never really figure out how one would really change any of that.
Ex-pornstar Sasha Grey strikes me as well spoken and fairly intelligent, if not sexually liberated. I admire that she’s eloquent, celebrates sex, and strives to use porn as her platform for sexual empowerment. She’s wasn’t your average pornstar with fake boobs and a traumatized past; Grey willingly chose her path and seemingly enjoyed her work.
She’s fiercely defended her pornstar status and maintains the idea that she’s never been done wrong by the porn industry. Yeah, I know there are people who enjoy that stuff, but I have a difficult time believing that most would feel “empowered” or “strong” while choking on a dick and being doubly penetrated.
This image makes me question what she stands for, but most of all, is it possible to be an empowered female player in the porn industry? Can you leave the industry unscathed?
Since Women and Violence class, I have been asking the same questions myself. The way the porn industry is set up these days you can be powerful, or a force to behold, as a female, but no one can really leave the sex industry completely enlightened. Having serious sustained injuries for the demand of more, more, MORE and the bigger the show the bigger the profits and high risk of contracting STDs it seems like a rough industry for women. But for those who do find it empowering, that is great !
Sex is not a goddamn performance.
Sex should feel as natural as drinking water.
It should not require confidence.
Sex should happen, because the moment is ripe.
Ripening lips, ripening labia, ripening cock, ripening pupils, ripening state of being. Ripe and augmented and brimming. Your energy goes to your pumping heart, then to every external nerve, then to theirs, on fire.
You bask, roll, play in it. You sigh, moan, laugh.
It’s not about being “good in bed.”
It’s about being happy.
One should never worry if they’re doing it “correctly.” Sex is not factual. I don’t want your cookie-cutter sex, I don’t want your meticulously crafted, calculated, fool-proof fuck. I don’t want a show. I want you. Let your instincts, urges and whims define that. It’s enough.
What do most girls like? Forget about it. Statistics are meaningless when there’s only one. Hello, here’s me. Here’s you.
Don’t worry about taking it too slow. We got time. We got infinite rhythms, combinations, possibilities. Explore each fuck. Take our time. We can do a different one later.
Don’t worry about making me come. I’m here. Right where I want to be.
I am overwhelmed by wanting; you don’t have to convince me. I want you because I like you. So don’t put on a front. Don’t taint this.
I’m frustrated—it’s just authenticity I want.
Don’t say that something I like is ugly. Don’t compare yourself to the rest. You will live and die with and within your experiences like everyone else. If someone thinks you are amazing, they are not wrong. Their universe is as real as any other; it is forged through perception.
I don’t care if you accidentally slammed my head into the wall, if you slipped out, if my arm cracked, if the delightful pressure of your wet lips on my anything made a silly sound. There is no right way and no wrong way.
“Good in bed,” what.
You’re good in my bed. I’m pleased you’re there. I feel it suits you.
Shove your technique. Let your memory swallow it. Fuck me like you’d fuck me, fuck me like you feel.
This isn’t a test." -
all. of. this.
i feel sick holy fuck
i googled the source because i couldn’t almost believe this is true
This is disgusting and I feel nauseous.
83.5% oh my god wow I hate people
I am a proud member of the 16.5%. Please reblog this, everybody. If you are a man, please let everyone you know, hell, the world know, that you are NOT okay with this.
omigod. that’s almost unbelievable…
i should look up these statistics
These stats are pretty accurate. I remember hearing something similar in Women and Violence class, and it is still pretty fucking scary.
I know it has been a while since I’ve posted guys, but I just finished this documentary on pornography and its affect on relationships, concepts of addiction, and how it changes people’s perspective on sex and relationships. It had some very interesting points, but what stood out to me the most was that this “fantasy” world of porn can cause serious issues on one’s view towards women and heighten a sense of normality to violence, the extreme, and bestiality. What consumers of porn don’t see is the discomfort of certain sexual acts (the pain on an actor or actresses face is generally ignored) and the medical problems that can arise in porn stars (like vaginal and anal tearing, STDs, and even psychological damage). It is an industry where the suppliers are not taking into account all of the negative affects that are possible, that has one’s self worth deemed by how sexy one can be, and that people are not begin educated about the positives and negatives of this industry, or about sex being something intimate.
Yeah sure we have the right to choose to have access to this material or not, but as a sexually active and independent woman it frightens me to see people assume that I want to be forced to have sex or I want to be in pain when having sex or that my self worth is only skin deep. And on occasion I really do see these things in action in some of the men I meet. Just a few thoughts guys. Respect each other. Respect yourselves. Respect your body and right to choose.
Definitely a sexy song. Let your imagination run wild ;)
It is a choice all women face, to become a Russian Hairless or Flaunt your womanhood. During my daily shower I was giving this some thought. Why are we so disgusted by one of the major signs that we have made it past adolescence and are officially women ? I have dated several guys who have been intimidated by the fact that I do not shave my entire pubic area and that I do not intend to (besides the bit of grooming to be sure it isn’t out of hand). My reasons for this is primarily because my skin is very sensitive and I’m allergic to certain types of wax so I’d rather not risk it. It is a personal choice, but honestly I say I enjoy flaunting my womanhood and find it kind of odd that popular culture finds it so attractive that women revert back to girlhood to be found attractive.